The Big 5

My baby is turning 5 years old tomorrow!

She’s still so young, but it is so amazing to me that 5 years has gone. I wouldn’t say fast, that seems too cliche. Plus, those toddler years were not quick at all, but they were quick enough. I’m honestly not looking forward to the days where we begin to grow apart. For instance, when she wants to go be with her friends or be with a crush more than family.

When I think about that, I begin to think that maybe I don’t spend enough time with her now. I know that is quite irrational, I’m with her when I can, and not with her so she can grow. Which may sound weird to homeschooling or stay-at-home moms. She is always with family. And unlike me, she is so extroverted and LOVES being around the people she loves. I never have to worry about her being scarred and unable to be comforted by me. She is so confident.

Who would have known that that tiny baby girl in my arms in January 2015 would grow into this strong, confident, extroverted child.

Isla Rose at 3 months

BBT Charting: Update

I have updates on the charting BC bit.

(I know it’s probably very awkward to hear about my womanly business, but it is my blog, not yours, so nyeh!)

I really have been enjoying. And gosh, I have felt SO much better since getting off the pill!

It took two months for my body finally get a nice standard pattern. I was actually expecting ovulation to start immediately, but I don’t think it did. OvuView (the app I’m using to keep track) detected ovulation. My temperatures were drastically weird that first month of charting, and basically stayed that way through next month too. I’m no expert on it, and suppose it is possible I did ovulate both months but it was just very unclear. Here’s a picture of that first month for anyone curious.

First month tempting and off of BC

My temps before and after ovulation have been pretty consistent with their lows and highs. The “before” never going above the Coverline, and the “after” don’t have those weird ups and downs. Also ovulation is a nice rise and super obvious now.

Any yeah. That’s BBT Charting for ya. I really like it. Totally worth trying out if you’re curious about your body. It can really help with learning about hormones too. 10/10 recommend. BUT as a birth control…I wouldn’t advice just winging it all willy-nilly (is that a pun?). I advise using other forms of birth control until at least 3 days past ovulation.

I Got My Break

I have been Isla free for almost 7 days. Granted, this mini mom vacay was brought in part by it being Nathan’s weekend and my wisdom tooth being pulled out and being doped up on pain pills for the two days Isla was supposed to be home with me.

The break has been nice. Two days of it were spent sleeping and some weird state of hungover/high that I was very fund of. Those pain pills made me feel so nauseous, but better nauseous than in pain, amma rite? Daniel spent those two day with me, taking care of me when I couldn’t function properly and giving me company where company was needed (And for me that is quite often from him. I enjoy his company, what can I say?).

On the fourth of July, we binged on Stranger Things 3. I could eat normal food by this point, so I had Daniel get me the best of the best from Taco Bell (which for me is the Gordita Crunch with chicken instead of beef and those nacho fries, omager yum!). It hurt a little to eat them, but you know what… WORTH IT!

Yesterday we created a Ghoul Gang to explore the old E.A. Conway Hospital that is supposedly haunted. Evidence was very slim, but we did make it out with a picture that is questionable. It’ll be the next discussion on the podcast, so if you wanna hear about that eperience, I suggest you look out for the podcast (which you follow the link at the top of tha page titled HWY16 Podcast) because we would love to have your ear!

Today is a chill day, and tomorrow is Mass and grocery shopping. Then mom life returns to normal again. Until school begins, anyways.

Mommies Need Breaks Too

Tonight is one of my good friend’s birthday party. Yet for me, it’s another weekend of being trapped in my house, hoping that maybe I can find a babysitter from 8pm – at least 10pm. This is not only hard to find, but it’s hard for me… Bedtime is at 8pm. Having to take Isla to another place at bedtime is going to throw off the routine. Is throwing off her routine for a night worth going out?

I’m certain I’m not the only mommy who experiences this feeling. Kidless friends may think that going out is as simple as finding someone to watch your child for a couple of hours so you can have fun “Moms need breaks too!”, but they don’t know the mommy guilt that will eat you alive while you’re out having fun while your kid’s routine is now skewed. And how will you bounce back? Skip nap time the next day? But that is bad for growth. Have them sleep most of the day? They would feel so energized and wild with the lack of play. Wake them up early? They would be so cranky and that gives everyone a bad time.

But always telling your friends you can’t go out because you don’t have a babysitter starts looking like an excuse. Soon people just stop asking you to hang out. They become resentful. If only they knew how much of a toll every decision takes on a mom. Losing friends vs raising a healthy child who can depend on you… It’s not even a question.

How do you know when mom guilt becomes irrational? I never feel like I’m being irrational. But I do crave breaks! And I get breaks, only to feel weird and guilty for craving so many breaks! OH, MOM GUILT; an endless paradox!

Yet, I love being a mom.

And who really wants to argue that someone who wants to be with their baby more than go out “needs a break”? They should be proud of their friend for being an awesome mom! It’s a hard job, after all.

Going out should be on the mom’s time. When it’s convenient for their family, not when it’s convenient for friends or anyone else. And Those breaks….they’re guilt free and the best! And bless the friends who understand and come over to hang out with their friend mom and their children.

I guess what I’m saying is that mommies do need breaks, but they need breaks that are free of guilt. Let your friend mom decide when a break is best for them. And if you’re available to come along, go! It will make them so happy!

University vs Community College

I’ve been a student at both a university and a community college. Even though I first trod the university grounds at age 18, I decided to quit school and pursue bigger dreams, like moving away and experiencing life after high school without tangling myself in debt as soon as I became legally an adult. Something about starting adulthood with money problems did not sound very appealing to me.

Five years later, at the sweet age of 23, I decided it was time, for reasons I have stated in Single College Mom (go read that if you wish to understand). Because 18 year old me was brilliant and didn’t expect to ever go back to college, I had left university without dropping and came out with a beautiful 0.71 GPA. The university put an academic hold on my account and banded me from the school until my GPA was raised.

In a world wind of anxiety, I googled how to raise a GPA when a school no longer accepted you. I quickly came up with the only way of not moving out of state. Community college.

I was quick to sign myself up for the school and track all the classes I needed, how I could graduate fast, and transfer to university and begin Atmospheric Science. I began quick and hard. And for a year and a half, I was schooled in community college. I transfered to the university and have been there for two semester.

Granted, I only have experience with my towns community college and university, but this is what I have learned about the two.

Family Friendliness-

University: Universities do typically have a daycare center, far off campus, but unless your studies are online, university is not idle for parents. The amount of homework and self studying is tedious and will require a lot of your focus and may take away from family time.

pros: Daycare center.

Cons: A lot of time is spent doing school work.

Community College: Community college seems to be built for parents. The have a daycare in the same building as you. Online and in class studies require minimal focus outside of class times, so having a balance for your schooling and family time is easily doable.

pros: daycare center. Located within five minutes of you. Less time on school work.

cons: Is there one?

Teachers-

University: There are so many people in university classes. It’s easy to be invisible in such large groups. And so it is also possible to never gain a relationship with your teacher unless you actively seek them out. To your teacher, you might just be another number or just a kid.

pros: Shy person’s heaven. Easy to watch Netflix.

cons: Antisocial nightmare.

Community College: With smaller classes, it’s easy to get to know your classmates and teachers. You are almost forced to gain a relationship with your peers and teachers. This makes getting to know your teachers easier. In return, teachers get to know you and will associate you as a real adult.

pros: Easy for people to ask questions.

cons: Shy person’s nightmare. Not Netflix friendly.

Clubs-

University: There are so many clubs to choose from. These clubs provide you with information and experience opportunities for your future career. You get to meet everyone in your major, and have a chance to hang out and get to know everyone you’ll be spending the rest of your four years with. There are also clubs that you can join that are not affiliated with your major where you can make other friends who share similar hobbies.

pros: Friend making. Experience building. Easy way to find information for future career.

Cons: Must dedicate time from studies and family.

Community College: Clubs are limited, though they do exist. It is harder to get information on your future career path in these clubs as everyone is most likely in a different major. It’s mostly to make friends!

pros: Friend making.

cons: No career information.

Work-

University: There is so much to do and experience. There are on campus jobs to keep you in the action. Although, if you do work, it’s not for long, and mostly evening shifts.

pros: On campus opportunities.

cons: Can’t work a lot. Evening shifts. Not likely to be excusable.

Community College: Community colleges are perfect for the working person. There are many night classes for those work in the day, along with plenty of online classes you can take. Often times, teachers will also work with you and your work schedule.

pros: Excusable. Flexible.

Cons: Not as many on campus opportunities.

Homework-

University: There is so much homework! You will definitely need time to do it all. From my experience, I swear you learn most of your lessons from your homework than from your actual teachers. In fact, missing class won’t even affect you as much as not doing your homework.

pros: You can miss class in peace.

cons: A lot of out of class studying time.

Community College: What you learn is class is what you do for homework. You will learn more in the class than on your homework. Homework is like a review of the lesson to make sure you understand what is going on and ask questions about what you don’t understand.

pros: Less out of class studying time.

cons: Don’t miss class.

Cost-

Univesity: pros: Lots of options. Cons: EXPENSIVE!

Community College: pro: Saves money. Cons: Less activities and class options.

I conclude saying this: If you are an adult with a family of your own, a job, or only want to take care of your business, community college is the way to go. If you’re young, don’t have a job or family of your own, or want to have a big social life, university is the way to go.

Kid Shows Parents Can Get TOO Invested In

Being a mom means being a kid show mediator. All moms have a different opinion on what their child should watch, but in my opinion, what gets watch highly depends on your child. Children are into different things, just like us adults. Some things I find Isla watching, I will immediately turn it off. Others, I get heavily invested in.

Here are my top 5 picks for kid shows parents can enjoy too!

5. Mia and Me

Mia and Me is about a 12 girl named Mia who gets sent to a prestigious boarding school after her parents die. Her aunt gives her a game her dad made before he died called “The Legend of Centopia” . This book ends up allowing Mia to travel between the real world and a cartoon world where unicorns and fairies exist.

This show has less to be invested in then the next ones on my list, but it is still interesting nonetheless. It provides enough entertainment for my daughter to sit through an episode. It has enough serious content to provide a good idea on how to handle situations and make mature decisions when you’re on your own.

4. Troll Hunters

Troll Hunters is about a high schooler named Jim who gets called to be the next troll hunter. The thing is….He’s the first HUMAN troll hunter.

I love this show! The characters are so likable, and not in an annoying way. What’s best is that it teaches children to trust their parents, no matter what, as Jim and his friends have to eventually involve their parents. It also teaches parents that we have to trust our kids to protect themselves, and that sometimes, we can’t help.

Photo source from Syfy!

3. Barbie: Life in the Dream House

LITDH does not really follow a story line. This show is so unique. Barbie and her friends living in the dream house having wacky adventures as plastic dolls in a fake world. They break the fourth wall, and kind of act like their on a documentary at times. If you loved playing with dolls or action figures as a kid, you will adore this show! It is comedic for everyone! Even my dad loves this show.

Found this photo on Medium, explaining why it’s their guilty pleasure!

2. Miraculous: The tales of Ladybug and Cat Noir

Miraculous is about a girl named Marinette and a boy she has a crush on named Adrien. They become the super heroes of Paris when they are given miraculouses that transform them into Ladybug and Cat Noir. They have to defeat the villainous Hawkmoth, who can make people evil with his moth creatures called Akumas. Hawkmoth has one goal, and that is to get Ladybug’s and Cat Noir’s miraculouses.

They show is so much fun. There is a weird romantic circle with Adrien and Marinette. Marinette loves Adrien, but Adrien loves Ladybug. The show revolves around their love, but doesn’t forget to remind you why they’re super heroes to begin with. The secrets of Hawkmoth will shock you! I am super invested in this show.

Picture from the Miraculous Ladybug Fandom wiki. It is not mine.

1. Spirit: Riding Free

Spirit is the number one show I would recommend for all parents! Spirit: Riding Free is slightly based off the movie Spirit. I remember watching Spirit in theaters when I was 9 years old! I loved that movie! When I say this show is based off Spirit, please remember it is not Spirit. Personally, I can’t remember Spirit that much, as it has been YEARS since I saw the movie, and Spirit: Riding Free did not disappoint me at all. The show is about a girl named “Lucky” who has moved from the city to Miradero, a small ranch town, not long after her mom died. Lucky feels a deep connection with a horse that has been captured to be broken. She helps the mustang and calls him Spirit.

This show has the best examples of good morals. It teaches kids that communication and honesty is the soul of every kind of relationship. It doesn’t hesitate to show all of Lucky’s weaknesses and accomplishments and how she grows as a person. It is so well written in my opinion! The show is over now, as far as I know, and worth the watch with your kids!


Spirit: Riding Free. © Dreamworks Animation LLC, all rights reserved